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[jackshoegazer]

I just found out through Facebook that my son has his first girlfriend.

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[wwonka666.livejournal.com]

Oh Facebook! When will you stop betraying the young??

[jackshoegazer.livejournal.com]

He said he was going to tell me eventually. It was probably easier to just let me see it that way.

It is weird.

[onesoul.livejournal.com]

wowzers! So do you ask him about it... or just wait for him to bring it up? How exciting!!!

[jackshoegazer.livejournal.com]

Oh no, even though he had just gone to bed and his light was off I busted in there, flipped on the light and was all HEY YOUR FACEBOOK!

Jacquelyn then shooshed me out and Ethan filled her in on all the details. Apparently Jacquelyn had to have to gossip first :)

[hellocthulhu.livejournal.com]

Well, at least you're apparently not on a "limited profile only" or something!

[jackshoegazer.livejournal.com]

I'm all invasive and overprotective - I require full profile and security access, as well as his passwords. I don't go snooping or anything but it's a just-in-case factor. As he gets older and more mature, I'll be less involved and his online life can be more opaque.

Did you ever decide what to do about your parental FBing?

[kiwikat.livejournal.com]

Wow, go Ethan. : ) It was only a matter of time.

That's got to be a weird way to find out, but I guess it saves him having to bring it up.

[jackshoegazer.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I think it was easier for him that way. We talk a lot and are pretty open with communication, but the whole girlfriend thing is always awkward. I have to not make jokes about it in any way though. I was teased mercilessly or humiliated when I was young about these things and it was one of the defining factors in the lack of trust I have toward my family.

[jeffinreallife.livejournal.com]

My dad found out through face book that I have boyfriends INSTEAD of girlfriends. It could be worse.

PS
LOVE the new lay out, LOVEIT

[jackshoegazer.livejournal.com]

Thanks! I'm quite proud of the new layout as well. I think I'll keep it for a bit :D

I've been quite open with Ethan that boyfriends are just fine but he has assured me that he likes the ladies.

How'd your dad take it? Not well, I suppose?

[abmann.livejournal.com]

Yay for first girlfriend!
Boo for Facebook ruining his secret! Sort of! Time for some honest talkings?

[jackshoegazer.livejournal.com]

We talk honest quite a lot. I think this was his way of telling me without having to all, Uh, hey, Dad..." since no matter the closeness, relationship talk between kids and parents is a little awkward, methinks.

But yeah, part of me is YAY! and part of me is ONOES!

[mys-ebrel.livejournal.com]

I had a cousin show my uncle a picture of me smoking a hookah that I had on facebook. my uncle then showed my dad the picture. I had to convince my parents that I was not on drugs and it was only flavored tobacco. effin cousins!

I bet he'll come around with more info if you give him time. and I bet you you'll be the first to know (without facebook) when that girl breaks his heart.

[jackshoegazer.livejournal.com]

Obviously he's a little embarrassed since it's a big shift in maturity and whatnot, but it will be fine. I think it was easier for him to publicly display it than to bring it up out of nowhere.

[fortepiano.livejournal.com]

Hahaha Facebook. That's great though, he's a good looking kid.

[jackshoegazer.livejournal.com]

Exactly, I'm surprised it hadn't happened sooner. But he's discerning so good on him for having standards :)

[dakini-grl.livejournal.com]

The modern world is a weird place! Aw.

[jackshoegazer.livejournal.com]

This is the modern equivalent of finding a DO YOU LIKE ME CIRCLE YES OR NO note in the laundry.

[brdgt.livejournal.com]

Kids these days...

[purplemb13.livejournal.com]

My thoughts exactly.

(I do think it's a little funny that Jacquelyn shooed you out of the room to get the details first.)

[beachpsalms.livejournal.com]

Ah - parenting in the land of Facebook. We have a bit of a Don't Ask, Don't Tell policy in our house.

[jackshoegazer.livejournal.com]

The internet rules are that I have full open security settings for his profile and know his passwords - just in case. He's said that almost all of his friends have their parents on the FBs. As he gets older and more mature, the level of transparency will lessen. Maybe I'm overprotective, but I know the shit *I* got into when his age and well...

[zhyndra.livejournal.com]

I wouldn't know much about my daughter and her kids if not for MySpace. It does serve a purpose!

[jackshoegazer.livejournal.com]

How odd indeed! People always say the internet is making people less communicative and connected, but I disagree.

[nonbeast.livejournal.com]

ahhh, facebook. that has to be so weird. I remember when my younger sister told me about her current (and first) boyfriend I was kind of like whaaa? lol

[jackshoegazer.livejournal.com]

It is very weird. Very. But hey, it's the future, we should act like it :D

[3starsinmyeyes.livejournal.com]

oh wow, facebook strikes again!

how you doin with this info?

[jackshoegazer.livejournal.com]

I'm okay. It's a little weird but I'm handling it. Makes me feel a bit old :P

[explodingalice.livejournal.com]

Oh dear.

What feelings did that generate?

[jackshoegazer.livejournal.com]

I dunno, it's weird. The whole growing up thing is strange and I am constantly having to reevaluate and adjust my relationship to him as he goes through these changes and becomes basically different people.

In these last few days though since he got his gf, he seems to have made a quantum leap into the i'm-serious-all-the-time, almost emoish, angsty behavior. Maybe he's just having a moody week, but it's seriously annoying :P Which means if it continues when he gets back from his mums this weekend, I'm going to have to sit down and have a talk with him about his behavior :(

[the-wondering-1.livejournal.com]

Oh wow. How old is Ethan again? I want to say he's somewhere around my age (16) but I have a feeling he's a bit younger than that still.

:) Hopefully it all works out. You seem to be doing a good job of handling things so far!

[jackshoegazer.livejournal.com]

He's 13. In 8th grade. He'll be 14 this summer.

Thanks!

[protodisco.livejournal.com]

Does he read your LJ?

[jackshoegazer.livejournal.com]

Nope!

[dakinigrl.livejournal.com]

just wait until you find a used condom in his room which is your heads up that he's having sex. oh the places you'll go.

[jackshoegazer.livejournal.com]

Hopefully I'll know because he's asked me to get him condoms. We've had several talks about such things and I hope it's worked. My family *never* discussed this sort of thing and *ta-dah* I was an 18-year old dad.

[jesuslovesbono.livejournal.com]

oooohh what's her name??
:D
jk of course