I waited 40 years to have a child, carefully choosing a guy I trust/ respect to avoid this kind of thing. Just reading this makes my stomach knot up. I just really wish for all three of you that it wouldn't have to be about her at all and could just be about Ethan. As long as she isn't doing anything actively to prevent him from accomplishing things, it isn't her fault, right? (Dunno any parent who checks their child's every assignment, btw.) Ultimately Ethan is responsible for Ethan, right? I mean, Ethan can play you two against each other with this lack-of-structure thing ad nauseam, right, and avoid all responsibility by passing the buck back and forth? He wouldn't do that, I'm sure, but it's a dynamic to avoid like the plague. How you three interact is a hell of a lot more important than a grade.
When my parents split up and then my mom remarried, my dad faded a bit into the woodwork. Later, around the time I was almost institutionalized for anorexia, he told me that he thought he didn't have to be there since I had a new father, and more to the point, he wished he had been able to teach me the beauty and symmetry of mathematics. I really don't know how math would have improved my life, but having all three parents really be there for me without all their sharp angles between them would have helped immeasurably.
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Date: 2006-01-03 06:46 pm (UTC)When my parents split up and then my mom remarried, my dad faded a bit into the woodwork. Later, around the time I was almost institutionalized for anorexia, he told me that he thought he didn't have to be there since I had a new father, and more to the point, he wished he had been able to teach me the beauty and symmetry of mathematics. I really don't know how math would have improved my life, but having all three parents really be there for me without all their sharp angles between them would have helped immeasurably.