how about telling him that sex complicates and intensifies everything and it's better to wait until you are an adult to add that to relationships and life in general? how about telling him that sex is a sacred act that is better when it's between you and someone who you have had a long time to get to know in other ways?
there are definitely reasons to wait, probably if you search your heart you will come up with the ones that really make sense to you, with religion having nothing to do with it. there's a reason you are uncomfortable with the idea of him having sex too early. you can frame the discussion any way that rings true.
it's been my experience (my daughter is almost 17) that if you stick to your gut feeling and set boundaries accordingly that it's remarkable successful. Teens want boundaries set for them. They will rail against them, but in the end they will relax and know they are safe. That's how it's been with my daughter, and she's a pistol.
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Date: 2009-02-09 07:17 pm (UTC)there are definitely reasons to wait, probably if you search your heart you will come up with the ones that really make sense to you, with religion having nothing to do with it. there's a reason you are uncomfortable with the idea of him having sex too early. you can frame the discussion any way that rings true.
it's been my experience (my daughter is almost 17) that if you stick to your gut feeling and set boundaries accordingly that it's remarkable successful. Teens want boundaries set for them. They will rail against them, but in the end they will relax and know they are safe. That's how it's been with my daughter, and she's a pistol.